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The Fabled Good Guy….Okay, Maybe Not Fabled.

I have found that there are more men that consider themselves good guys than a little bit.  Many of them like to play the victim and claim that NO ONE wants them.  I wonder if these men are being honest with themselves.  What makes a man a “good guy” to ONE doesn’t make him said good guy to ALL. Once men figure that out, they can learn not to take things so personally.  It’s great that you don’t have any kids and have a great job BUT the woman you might be interested in might want a man that has kids. Maybe your job is as a drug dealer. Do you think that all women should bow at your feet because of this?

People have preferences.  Understand that you won’t be that person for everyone.  And it’s totally okay. We will never be perfect on the eyes of others but it’s pretty nice to be close to perfect…or to think we are.

Some people throw the term “good guy” around not really knowing what it truly means.  But, then again,  it is a relative term. To a woman that used to be beaten, a good man is a man that doesn’t hit her. While to another woman,  that man might not beat you but he still gets drunk and verbally assaults her. This wouldn’t be a good man to her. You can’t be everything to everyone.

But, then again, there are good men that just BECAME  good RECENTLY and try to pass off their goodness as how they ALWAYS were. Those are guys that, if you could ask their previous girlfriends how they were before they found God, you would find out that he was a cheater,  beater, or liar. To me, no one has always been good just as no one has ever just been bad. Experiences can change you for the better or worse but I can guarantee you that you will never be the same.

As a woman,  I wasn’t always a good woman. I learned and, in some cases, was taught how to be that good woman. Am I a better woman than I was 9 years ago? Yes. Many times you have to fall on your face to learn what is acceptable.

In the end, what everyone needs to do is learn to be the good person for ONE person. If others have passed up your “goodness”, let them. It’s their loss (or gain) in the end.  Don’t let it sour you to all women to the point that you start claiming that women don’t want a good man. We all know this isn’t true. They probably just don’t want YOU. You are not the spokesperson for all the “good” men in the world.  Be honest with yourself.